Mary Graham

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National Infertility Awareness Week + A Royal Daughter guest post

Today I am honored to have the beautiful (inside and out) Amanda from A Royal Daughter visiting. She’s sharing some pretty powerful stuff that’s on her heart and I know, from experience, that so many people will relate to her and her struggle. Make sure you stop by her blog today and show her some love and encouragement.
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Hi there, have we met before? If not, let me introduce myself:

I am a country-living, ice tea drinking, good book reading, farming, ranching, Jesus-loving, curly-headed wife of a seminary professor.   He’s a teacher, I’m a writer. He’s a thinker, I’m a creative. Together we make our home on a small farm in Texas.

I had the complete joy and honor of meeting Mary last October at the Influence Conference. She has such a sweet spirit, and I loved having the opportunity to brainstorm with her about her blog design. She’s a treasure, and she’s graciously offered to let me take over her online space today. Thank you Mary for your virtual – albeit very real – hospitality.

Carly, Mary, Me, and Brittany. Mary’s the only non-Texan in the picture. And her fabulously comfy outfit may have inspired me to purchase some mustard pants to pair with a chambray top. Talk about copycat fashion!

I’m here today for a very specific purpose. April 21-27 is National Infertility Awareness Week, and as a woman deep in the thick of battling barrenness, I am trying to make the most of this painful journey by spreading awareness about infertility.

A few facts about infertility:

  • Approximately 1 in 6 couples in the United States are diagnosed with some degree of infertility each year.

  • “Infertility” is defined as the inability to conceive a child after one year of unprotected, well-timed intercourse for women under the age of 35. Women 35 and older may be diagnosed after 6 months of unprotected, well-timed intercourse without conception. (The inability to sustain a pregnancy beyond 20 weeks is also classified as “infertility.”)

  • 30% of infertility is the result of an ovulatatory dysfunction (i.e. there is a problem with the woman’s ovulation cycle).

  • 30% of infertility is the result of a problem with the man (i.e. sperm structure or production).

  • Women who face infertility often describe their situation as “lonely,” “isolating,” and “painful.”

  • There is a large spectrum of treatments for infertility, with varying degrees of invasiveness and cost.

    • My story:

  • My husband and I started trying for a baby almost 4 years.

  • We were officially diagnosed with “unexplained infertility” in February 2012 (the same month our foster boys were removed from our home). 

  • We have tried various therapies and treatments, from “alternative” therapies to traditional western medical treatments, including Intrauterine Insemination (IUI).

  • In September 2012 we embraced a gluten-free diet, as gluten intolerance is closely tied to infertility. 

  • We’ve experienced the pain and frustration of two failed IUIs.

  • Until last November my husband and I kept our struggle to ourselves. We were completely unwilling to share our story, and to some extent we were unwilling to accept our diagnosis.

    • National Infertility Awareness Week:
    This week on my blog, I will be dedicating the entire week to spreading awareness about infertility, offering encouragement for those battling the pain of barrenness, and providing resources for friends and family of those facing infertility. Topics will include:

  • Ideas for stepping up out of the pit of infertility and transforming negative emotions and energies into productive, worthwhile activities.

  • Collaborative efforts from women currently battling infertility, and how they overcame common lies women believe about being barren.

  • Online and print resources for those battling infertility as well as those who want to come alongside and encourage and support their infertile friends and family members.

  • How to encourage and support your infertile friends.

  • Owning your infertility + embracing the waiting period.

  • Collaborative efforts from women who have made it through to the other side of infertility straight to the hearts of those currently navigating the muddy waters of barrenness.

  • Infertility from the husband’s perspective.

    • There will also be a giveaway during the week with items I’ve hand-picked to offer hope and encouragement to those battling infertility. My goal is to offer encouragement and inspiration not only to those currently facing the isolation and frustration of infertility, but for those who wonder how they can minister to their friends who are facing infertility.

    I hope you’ll join us, and help spread awareness about infertility. It is an isolating journey, but it doesn’t have to be.

    You can connect with me at my website, on twitter, facebook, and instagram. I’m also on pinterest and google. However you decide to connect with me, please take time to introduce yourself!

    Comments

    1. I am so sorry you have had to go through this! It’s not fair… I think it’s awesome you are posting this though because so many people go through it and I think feel super alone. I know it’s easier said that done and I don’t know what it’s like to go through, but like you said, find joy in waiting… enjoy your sleep tonight for me because my teething baby was up from midnight to three screaming! Watch a WHOLE movie with your husband tonight, and go our to dinner and eat uninterrupted! 🙂

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    2. Great guest post – LOVE A Royal Daughter! Although I have not experienced infertility myself, my family and friends have, so thanks for sharing this story and making us aware!

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